Me: Now that your work schedule has changed, which nights do you want to talk on the phone?
(In case you've just arrived to the party, The Boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship)
The Boyfriend: Let's play it by ear.
(short pause)
Me: I'm a planner. I don't like playing things by ear.
The Boyfriend: OH, GOD!
I could hear his eyes rolling like pinballs into the back of his head.
I went on to explain in mind-numbing detail how my life works much better if I know exactly what I'm going to do when.
The Boyfriend: Fine! You pick which days we're going to talk. It really doesn't matter to me.
Of course, I wasn't going to be a total control-freak and not take his feelings into consideration so we struck a compromise -- we talk on Wednesday evenings and Saturday mornings. If one of us wants to talk more, then we could give the other a call. If the other person is available then we talk; if not, we save the conversation for another day. It's the best of both worlds. I get my structure and he gets his flexibility.
I wished all of life's "problems" worked themselves out this easily.
Now, someone promise me that this is as difficult as it's going to get.
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Colorado and I have been living together for 9 months now. Our apartment has been broken into and I have been fired from my job. My dad says it is a miracle we are both still in this together. It always gets better, and it always gets worse, I think you just have to decide which you hold on to.
You like to plan and schedule, so schedule in some flexibility.
Water Baby, you are wise beyond your years. Coffeypot, you are as wise as your years suggest.
I am not a planner by nature, but what I have learned in my long life is that you really can`t plan anything! As the saying goes, Life is what`s happening while you had really planned something completely different!
I think it`s more fun that way anyway.
HUH?
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