Tuesday, September 29, 2009

I need help.

I am a sick person. A very, very, very sick person.

Today, while sitting in my car on my lunch break, I ate an entire bag of Hostess Mini Chocolate Covered Donuts. An. Entire. Bag. That's got to be a sign of a serious psychological illness, especially considering that I'm a diabetic who knows the damage inhaling 6 servings of sugar-coated refined carbohydrates can do to my body. Yet, I did it anyway.

And that's not the worst of it.

Yesterday, again while in the privacy of my vehicle, I consumed half a box of Twinkies.

Do I have some sort of death wish or something?

They say that one of the triggers to binge eating is stress, but I don't necessarily think I've been under a whole lot of stress per se. Well, I did lose my job back in February, but that wasn't what I would consider stressful. After all, all of my bills were paid for (courtesy of the government and my family). All of them. So essentially, my unemployment experience was like being on a 6-month long vacation, the kind of vacation where you leave both the husband and the kids at home and it's just you, the beach and a good book. That's not to say I didn't worry occasionally, but there was never this constant, underlying feeling of anxiety driving me to eat more than I should.

What I do think is underlying are feelings of deprivation. Since being diagnosed with diabetes in October '08, I have been carrying around with me constantly, much like I carry around my purse, a sense of being deprived. Sometimes, when I'm feeling particularly motivated, I can ignore those feelings with ease. Sometimes, it's a bit more of a struggle, but I'm still able to make healthy choices. Other times, I succumb. And I succumb in the most destructive of ways -- by binge eating.

A few months ago, it was suggested by my dear readers, that I join a support group like Overeaters Anonymous. I resisted because it seemed like an option that might suck out the last of my remaining dignity. But I think I'm now at a point where I'm willing to set aside my pride if it means getting the help I need to, once and for all, change my life for the better.

Stay tuned. . .


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Whew! That was kind of. . .cathartic. I'm surprised with the ease with which I wrote the above post. The last two posts really have come rather easily. They've still taken me a long time to write, about an hour, but it was easy writing. I simply wrote what came to me and I didn't belabor every word of every sentence trying to craft the next Pulitzer contender.

One of the reasons I felt the need to write is I haven't felt like I could confide in The Boyfriend this week because he's dealing with his own issues concerning finances, job and a general sense of being a failure. I try to help by offering "advice" but it always seems to come off more like brow-beating criticism which ends up being no help at all, frustrating and angering both of us and causing him to shut me out. I'm beginning to think that my role of being a supportive partner should consist mainly of listening and should involve very little talking.

I needed to get that off my chest too.

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

I finally have something to say.

You would think that, with being jobless, I would have had oodles of time to do mindless things like drone on endlessly in the blogosphere, to no one in particular, about the mundane details of my life. And I have. Had oodles of time, that is. But what I also found is that I've had very little to say. The mundane details just seemed too. . .well, mundane, which is why I seemed to have gone M.I.A. as of late.

But now. . .NOW, I have something to say. An announcement of sorts. Are you ready? Are you sitting down? Good, 'cause here it is:
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I HAVE A JOB!!!!

That's right. Grizzbabe is BACK! Back in the coal mines with the rest of you slobs, slaving away like a migrant worker. No more living off the government dole for me. No sirree. I gots me a payin' gig!

Where am I working you ask?

In the interest of anonymity and all that, let's just say I'm working as an administrative assistant for a non-profit organization that specializes in mentoring children.

How did I get this job you query?

(A bunch of nosy fuckers!)

Good old-fashioned networking. (I'm living proof that it's not just what you know it's who you know.)

A few weeks ago, I mentioned to my associate pastor that I would be interested in volunteering for a non-profit until I could secure full-time employment. Having been a former Executive Director in the non-profit arena, she tossed a few contact names my way and, within a week, I was volunteering at two organizations, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon.

I started on a Monday and by Thursday, both organizations had expressed an interest in hiring me part-time with one position having the potential of going full-time. Well, once the organization that wanted to eventually hire me permanently found out about my other volunteer activities, a full-time offer was put on the table, which I accepted.

And I am so grateful. Grateful to be working again, but also to be helping a great bunch of people to advance such a worthy cause.

How does this affect The Boyfriend and I's marriage plans?

Good question. I'll let you know when we figure it out.