My friend, Anita, conducted an unscientific poll among her male co-workers. She asked if they had any objections to their girlfriend or wife using a vibrator. The responses ranged from the caveman ("No. Not even if I'm on a business trip") to mild disapproval ("Well, only if I were there to use it on her.") The conclusion she drew from this experiment was that men do not want their women experiencing sexual satisfaction unless they are involved in the process.
I found this to be an interesting hypothesis and encouraged her to test it on my boyfriend when he came to town. While we were all out to dinner, she posed the question again. My boyfriend is fairly open-minded so I was not surprised when he responded that he had no problems with me using a vibrator. A few weeks later, he sings a slightly different tune.
I get a call on my cell phone from the boyfriend as I am on my way to a Bath Junkie party. Because he's a guy, I knew he had no clue what a Bath Junkie party was and I really didn't take the time to explain it to him. When I talk to him again later in the week he mentions that he was worried that the party I went to was a sex toy party. I asked if he didn't want me going to sex toy parties. He admitted that he would rather I go with him the first time I purchase a vibrator. I stifle a chuckle at the idea of him proving my friend, Anita, right, at least in part.
This whole thing has been very fascinating and has inspired me to conduct my own little survey, so here goes. Men (ladies feel free to offer your opinions too): Would it bother you if your woman used a vibrator? If so, what is it about the idea that does not sit well with you?
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Vibrators cant actually replace men.Who will cut the grass? The vibrator?
But when did YOU get a boyfriend, Mademoiselle? Have you mentioned him before? Anyway, my congrats.
As for the electronic pleasure devices, I went "organic" years ago. The orgasms are better without, I find. Also, some women have trouble coming with their mates once they grow too dependent - the stimulation threshhold's too high. Cut the guys some slack, no one should have to work that hard.
Maybe the boyfriend didn't expect you to possibly take the step towards getting a vibrator so soon after you and your friend gave him a hypothetical situation. He probably didn't think you were setting up to go that route, although it looks like he misunderstood you. But that's how guys are. We try to be open-minded, but when it comes down to it, we're very territorial, and we're going to have some degree of a problem if you're having orgasms that we have nothing to do with.
Yes, kissyface, I have mentioned him before although it's been a very long time. Congratulations on your new beau too!
I would think that men would be more open minded about masterbation. I have an understanding that they do it frequently with or without a steady. So what is the difference if it is a woman. Come on fellas, why do you masterbate when you have a wife, girlfriend, etc?
Old Lady
I think it bothers men. My last boyfriend would change his mind depending on his mood. Sometimes he was okay with it, then other times it bothered him. So it ended up coming down to I could only use it if he was out of town.
Done it ever since I was just a little boy.
I think your boyfriend is pretty sly the way he is tryin' to sneak in to the Sex Toy Party by saying he needs to be there for tyour first... I guess he wants to kick the tires and make sure you get something that will stand up to some abuse.
Alone or in pairs ... either way... never been the jealous territorial type!
griz you never cease to amaze!
the boyfriend. so subtle. nice how it just slipped in.
i have a vibrator, but it kind of died. my friend wants me to use one with him, and he doesnt seem to mind if i use it when we cant be together.
i like both options.
I think men are intimidated by anything that substitutes their own penis. Especially if that substitute brings a woman greater, more intense, and faster satisfaction..without a man. It's the same thing with men and other men. Some men are very territorial when it comes to their women. I have this crush on this bartender who has a boyfriend. The bartender and I have become pretty cool with each other, and very quickly. I'm more charming than a factory full of lucky charms. It's clear she digs my humor, and there's definitely chemisty. One patron even joked that he thought she had a crush on me. Well,up until a week ago her boyfriend rarely showed up at the bar. Now every time I'm there, he just seems to always be "in the neighborhood."
Hey, it's Tiffanie. I just found you again, I moved my site and lost touch with you.
I agree with dre and Rune.
Honestly, guys don't like penis substitutes. It's one of the few things women will sometimes give us credit for using properly...sometimes.
Vibrators are intimidating. Look at it from our point of view: you can get a vibrator any size you want, any shape and/or color you want. Hell, you can even get double-pronged vibrators or dildos or whatever, whereas your man only has to offer the same ole penis to you day in and day out.
When I was a teenager in parochial school, the male religion teacher used to menace the male students with veiled threats about masturbation, by telling us that if we masturbated too much (or at all, really) our penises would get accustomed to that hand action and would never be satisfied by a real vagina.
I swear, sadly that really happened.
Anyway, I think some guys fear if their women get accustomed to the vibrator they'll stop enjoying the real thing (assuming they ever enjoyed it in the first place).
Oh, i almost forgot to ask, you know how to make "Pickle Bread", don't you?
You start out with a good Dill Dough....
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